I’ve been slacking a lot lately in the blogging department, not only in writing, but in reading them as well. I recently was able to catch up thanks to a slow week at work. After reading J-Man’s blog post “Best Friends Means You Get What You Deserve” I decided to take a look at the list of things you should know about your good friends. I realized that I could barely answer these questions for myself, let alone be able to say that I knew them about any of my friends. I decided I’d let those of you who read my blog cheat a little bit and learn somethings about me if you don’t already know them. I also felt I needed to try and define those things for myself. Fears, dreams, weaknesses, history they are all at the core of what make a person who they are. I’ve been on a mission to try and figure out who I am this last year so I may as well let everyone in on what I’ve come up with so far. The link is at the bottom of where these came from.
1. Know at least one of their life’s goals.
I’d like to go back to school for my PhD when I’m older. I think it would be pretty cool to be called Dr. DePiero. I figure that when I get burnt out on my crazy lifestyle in 15 years I won’t have a problem sitting in room and reading and writing books all day.
2. Know one of their weaknesses.
I don’t know how to ask for help when I need it. I refuse to ask for directions. I’d rather waste hours, days, weeks trying to figure out how something works rather than ask someone how to fix it. When I’m feeling vulnerable I don’t let anyone help hold me up. Part of it is not trusting that others can know something as well as I do, and part of it is the need to always be self-sufficient. I got so used to people not being there for me that I stopped asking for them to be. I’d like to change that.
3. Know what makes them truly happy.
My friends and watching a good live music show. When the two of those are together I couldn’t feel more complete as person.
4. Learn about their childhood.
I’d actually rather you didn’t. Just know that whatever weird fucked up shit I do now is probably a direct result of things that happened when I was younger. It’s no excuse for my less awesome behaviors. It is however, all in the past and it can’t be changed and I’d rather not talk about it anymore. The best I can do is try to be the best person I can be, right now. I don’t need any sympathy or respect from anyone for the things I have gone through. Just like everyone else I am just trying to get through this crazy thing called life. I made it out alive and I’d like to think I’m a pretty decent person despite all the bullshit I had to deal with. So lets just enjoy the present moment instead, it is after all, the only thing we’ve got going for us.
5. Learn about what they want in the future.
Adventures. I don’t want this crazy ride to stop for a second. I never want to sit down and realize that I am bored with my life. I constantly want to be going somewhere, anywhere.
6. Find out what they feel was their biggest failure in life so far.
I don’t mark my life by successes or failures. I’ve technically “failed” some things but I wouldn’t call them failures at all. Experiencing those things only helped me become even more awesome, so I don’t waste too much time on letting them make me feel negative.
7. Find out what they do and don’t like about their life.
I love that I am all over the place. I love that I don’t have any problem picking up and moving on to the next place. It makes my life pretty damn interesting. One thing I don’t like is the fact that my family is so spread apart. I’m only 23 and the last time we were all together was at least 10 years ago. There are few things I wouldn’t give to wake up and be with all of my siblings on Christmas morning again.
8. Discover what their dream job has always been.
Music and travel…..put em together
9. Find out what their favorite book is.
Books are my favorite in general. I’ve read too much from too many areas to ever choose just one.
10. Find out something they’ve always want to try, like skydiving or bungee jumping.
I’m always up to try anything. There are few things I haven’t at least tried. I’d like to learn how to skate board though honestly. I’ve tried it but I’d like to get to the point that I could at least do some cool stuff. There’s nothing more awesome to me than seeing a chick know what she’s doing on a skateboard…..unless its a chick playing the drums.
11. Find out who they admire.
I’ve never been big on admiring others really. I didn’t have very many people in my life growing up that I could admire really and as such I have always looked inside myself for strength, motivation, etc. Recently though that has changed and I would have to say that anyone who has the guts to pursue what they love, regardless of how tough it may make their life in the meantime. Those are the people that get all the respect in the world from me. I’m working to be more like them.
12. Know what their biggest fear is.
Losing a limb in a shark attack. I used to have the worst nightmares about it when I was younger. Shark week for this girl is definitely something to avoid. Second to that would be living your normal average life, marriage, family, owning a house, working a 9-5 job. Hard to think of anything more scary than normalcy…..and shark attacks.
13. Discover why they aren’t pursuing their dreams.
It took me along time to really even figure out what they even were. I think I’ve got a handle on that now. I’ve got some financial obstacles in the way right now, but soon I hope to be on my way. I’m just glad I was able to find out what that was.
14. Find out where they would live if they could live anywhere.
I’d have a house on a beach where the weather is always nice.
15. Find out what they thought was the worst day in their life.
Hands down the day I went to Denny’s funeral. It wasn’t real until I saw him lying there, and then eventually buried. Probably the hardest thing I had to stand and watch and I couldn’t do a thing to change it. Confronting the absoluteness of death affected me in a more profound way than anything else has before or since. Nothing feels more real, or makes you feel more helpless. Even though it was the worst day it gave me one of the best things I’ve ever gotten: the ability to treasure those in my life right now, because they can all too easily be gone tomorrow.
http://www.lyved.com/people/15-things-to-know-about-the-people-in-your-life/
I liked this Regene. I thought it was honest and I learned new things about you I didn’t knew. I admire your resiliency to do what you want. Good luck with all your endeavors.